When a loved one dies, family and friends of St Francis should please contact us so that prayers may be said for the departed. The prayers will be part of our daily worship in church. A priest can come to your home if you wish prayers to be said there.
The funeral service in the Church of England is a church service and has to conform to basic rules. Many families wish the service to be one which celebrates the departed’s life and that can easily be achieved within the bounds of the service.
The prime purpose of the service is for us to ask God to care of the departed and to place them in his hands (what are called in the service the Commendation and Committal). We do this in the knowledge that there is nothing better we can do for the
departed than to ask their heavenly Father to care for them.
The funeral service can be a very sad occasion but it is a necessary part of the grieving process and it does offer the Christian hope that God loves and cares for each one of us.
Families are invited to the All Souls Day service (about 2nd November) when we remember those who have died in Christ and those whose funerals took place out of St Francis or with St Francis clergy in the past year.
Arranging a funeral
Most of the funeral arrangements, including the finances, will be handled by the undertaker. Many people will visit the undertaker first, though if you have a priest who you would like to take the service you should contact him as soon as possible.
Services can be in church, where they may be a funeral or a funeral Eucharist (‘Requiem Mass’), followed by a committal at a crematorium or graveside. Alternatively the full service can take place at either a crematorium or cemetery. In either case, the body may be received there the night before so that the departed leaves on their final journey having rested in their spiritual home.
Ashes may be interred in the grounds of St Francis church. If the departed lived in the parish or an adjoining parish they may have the right to be buried in the churchyard of All Saints, Orpington.
At St Francis we arrange for the family and priest to come together preferably about a week before the funeral. This is an opportunity for the family to ask questions about the service and for the priest to explain what the service might contain. Where service booklets are to be printed we can provide templates which can then be tailor-made for the family’s requirements. The family may find it useful to draw up their thoughts about the departed before they meet the priest and to have considered what music they would like. When thinking about music it is important to consider how appropriate it may be – not everything we might like to play will do justice to the service and the departed.
In church £292 followed by crematorium or cemetery £26 – Total £318
Whole service in Crematorium £182
Ashes in churchyard £138
Fees quoted from C of E Table of Parochial Fees Jan 2016